Die With Zero: Are You Investing for a Life You Won’t Live? | Ep. 18

Most high achievers spend their lives accumulating—growing their bank accounts, growing their investment portfolio, growing their legacy. But what if you’re saving for a life you’ll never live? All those millions of dollars represent decades of discipline, every penny put in its place so your family can live a fuller life than you experienced. And while it’s a noble pursuit to strive to put your children, grandchildren, and great-grandchildren in a better place, what about the time you’re trading with them to accumulate more?

When I first read the book Die With Zero, I realized that I, too, might be sacrificing too much for the sake of my legacy. I want my wealth to compound and grow, to provide my family with the life they deserve, but not at the cost of never seeing me. On my deathbed, will I be thinking about how much money I made or how much time I spent with the ones I cherish?

Today, we’re unpacking the Die With Zero philosophy, the framework to get you the highest return on life, the largest “experience dividends,” and the most quality time with your loved ones.

Your years aren’t created equal—how long do you have until the experiences you tirelessly planned to fulfill are out of reach? What would it be like to die with zero regrets

Sage Wisdom from Today’s Episode: 

  • Die With Zero: a simple framework that allows you to optimize for experience, not just money
  • Why many high-achievers invest too much in the future and not enough in the present 
  • The single biggest regret most people have on their deathbeds (will you be the same?)
  • The risk of not spending enough money on your experiences 
  • How I successfully plan my year to have dozens of “adventures” and meaningful time with my family 
  • The “trap” that competitive entrepreneurs commonly fall into (the one that costs you the most—and it’s not financial) 

Die With Zero: Getting All You Can from Your Money and Your Life

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Chapters: 

0:00 Intro

1:44 Die With Zero (Regret)

4:08 Die With Money or Memories?

9:58 Time Means More Than Money

14:04 Optimizing for Life vs. Money

15:28 What’s Your Return on Life?

17:43 Plan Your Year’s Experiences NOW

24:15 Stop “Overfunding” Your Future

Episode Transcript

0:00 – Here’s an idea that made me uncomfortable.

0:02 – Dying with a large amount of money might actually mean that you planned your life poorly.

0:08 – The reason it made me feel uncomfortable is because that’s what I’m actually trying to do right now

0:12 – is to build wealth and pass it on.

0:13 – I’ve always been someone who delays gratification, who saves, who invests,

0:17 – who pushes things out into the future.

0:19 – And that’s how most investors are wired.

0:21 – We spend decades building and compounding and optimizing.

0:24 – But we don’t spend a lot of time asking a very simple question.

0:28 – What should we actually build all of this for?

0:32 – Welcome to the Sage Investor.

0:33 – I’m Brian Spear.

0:33 – And my mission is to help you generate cash flow and build legacy wealth in a tax-efficient manner.

0:38 – Because that’s what I’m trying to do for my family.

0:40 – And I’m sharing all the secrets that I learn along the way.

0:43 – This is one of those ideas that stop seeing your tracks.

0:46 – Because it forces you to think about something that most of us avoid.

0:51 – Not how to build wealth, but when and how you actually use it.

0:57 – When do you actually spend it?

0:58 – If you really step back and you look at your life,

1:00 – what are you building all of this for?

1:03 – Not the surface level answer, but the real one.

1:06 – Because most of us follow a very similar path.

1:10 – Work hard, save aggressively, invest consistently,

1:16 – the lay gratification, and the assumption is that we’ll enjoy it.

1:22 – We’ll enjoy it later.

1:23 – But later is doing a lot of heavy lifting in that plan.

1:28 – And I don’t think we spent enough time

1:30 – pressure testing what that actually means.

1:34 – Because the truth is time is not linear in the way that we think it is.

1:39 – And not all of your years are created equal.

1:43 – And that’s what this episode is about.

1:44 – And it’s why we wanted to bring this book to the forefront today.

1:48 – It’s dive with zero.

1:49 – It was highly recommended by a lot of folks in an entrepreneurial investing group that I’m a part of.

1:56 – And so I went about popping open the cover.

1:57 – And ultimately, very, very happy that I did.

2:00 – Because this book had a couple of golden nuggets.

2:03 – And of course, it will not tell you how to spend your money.

2:07 – But it was illuminating to me because it provided a little bit of a framework

2:12 – and some intrigue and different ideas and topics that I wouldn’t have otherwise thought about.

2:16 – Of kind of when you might be more well served

2:20 – to send that cash out of your wallet.

2:23 – In an effort to optimize your life, in an effort to live the most rich,

2:26 – fulfilling life that you possibly can.

2:29 – From my perspective, I’m the kind of guy that oftentimes is going to delay

2:32 – gratification and try to continue to build as much wealth and compound interest as I can over time.

2:36 – I’m just wired in that manner to delay gratification.

2:39 – But this is a great book that provides you with some insight on why it would be prudent to do it now

2:44 – as opposed to wait.

2:45 – I think as investors, we spend so much time, energy and effort ultimately working on

2:50 – compiling a large net worth, building cash flow.

2:54 – What do I always talk about generating cash flow and building legacy wealth in a tax efficient manner?

2:58 – That’s what the focus is.

2:59 – That’s where the vast majority of my personal time, energy, effort and attention go.

3:04 – But I think as an investor, oftentimes one thing that is that is missed, that is overlooked,

3:09 – and that is lacking is once you build this cash flow, once you build this wealth,

3:16 – what do you do with it?

3:18 – How do you spend it?

3:19 – And nobody really tells you how to go about doing that well.

3:23 – The reason that this is a topic and a conversation that we want to bring to the table

3:27 – is I literally had this conversation with somebody two weeks ago,

3:30 – and they had a different point than I did, a different perspective on this book than I did.

3:33 – And both of us are trying to optimize, trying to grow our wealth,

3:36 – trying to build this individual tracks his net worth every single month and has done so for decades.

3:41 – And dislikes the idea and the concept of the book.

3:44 – And I don’t, I actually admire and enjoy and appreciate the book.

3:48 – And so I think that mere fact that two individuals that have the exact same objectives for

3:54 – them and their families have completely different perspectives on this book,

3:58 – make you as an investor want to understand more about why we feel the way that we do,

4:05 – about that striking perspective of dying with zero.

4:08 – I was at a restaurant with one of our partners,

4:12 – friend, long-standing investors, been with us for over 10 years now,

4:16 – and had the luxury of sitting down, talking shop, and spending some time together with him and

4:20 – his wife. And this book was brought up. And he said, have you ever read, die with zero?

4:25 – I said, yes. He said, what did you think about it?

4:28 – And prior to my sharing my perspective, I wanted to hear what he had to say about it.

4:32 – And so I asked him with great, great question.

4:35 – I’m happy to share my opinion, but what do you feel? How do you feel about it?

4:37 – And he said, I don’t like the book. I don’t know if he said I hate the book, but he said,

4:40 – I definitely, I dislike the book. I disagree with the idea. And it’s entirety.

4:45 – And it was interesting to me to hear that perspective because the book from my side of the house was,

4:52 – was, I don’t want to use the terminology profound. That’s exaggeration.

4:57 – But there are most assuredly some serious golden nuggets inside of that binder in my humble opinion.

5:02 – I’ve never once paid $10 for a book and not gotten a good return on my investment.

5:06 – And this was such an example, right? This partner and I, we share so much overlap.

5:11 – And what we’re trying to achieve on behalf of our families.

5:13 – Every single month for the last multiple decades, he has tracked his personal net worth.

5:19 – Absolutely beautiful. Love every bit of it.

5:21 – Trying to change the family tree in one generation. I’m trying to do the same.

5:23 – It’s beautiful. We share an investment philosophy, trying to generate cash flow

5:27 – and build legacy wealth in a tax-efficient manner. So I asked, why? Why do you feel that way?

5:31 – Because of course, he wants to pass along so much more to the next generation.

5:34 – And he wants to be able to share with his children the idea of hard work and dedication

5:40 – and delayed gratification and all the things that we, as investors, so much appreciate and cherish

5:46 – and hold so high. Die with zero is a very shocking title, as you can imagine.

5:52 – Especially for somebody who has all the intention of changing the family tree in one generation

5:57 – and leaving a large amount of wealth to the next generation.

6:00 – And hopefully, in due time, passing along to the third generation and the fourth generation,

6:05 – etc. Of course, I share his philosophy, but I took a different perspective and I genuinely

6:11 – appreciated the author’s intent and took it with a grain of salt.

6:16 – What is the risk of my going and optimizing for the highest amount of wealth and the highest

6:21 – amount of cash flow that I can ultimately create, right? If I only solely drive and focus on doing

6:26 – that, what is the risk associated with that? The risk is I end up like so many of these other

6:29 – individuals that unfortunately have really brutal family situations. There have been many

6:34 – biographies written about some of the world’s best founders who’ve created an amassed

6:39 – exorbitant amounts of wealth over time, built great businesses, but their personal lives are an

6:43 – absolute dumpster fire. That is a risk that I’m unwilling to take with my bride and with my family.

6:49 – I’m unwilling to do that. So that risk is far in a way too much for me to ultimately do.

6:55 – And I would happily give away a little bit of that return in terms of the nominal dollar

6:59 – amount that I’m going to create over time to ensure that we’re optimizing for lifestyle

7:03 – along the way. Personally, this is how I feel. The title, die with zero while it can be shocking,

7:08 – really should be taken with a grain of salt. The goal is not literally to die with zero money.

7:15 – The goal is to die with zero regret. While your capital worked at maximum efficiency throughout

7:22 – your entire life, the author makes this argument that you’re more well served to spend money

7:30 – at different times in your life to optimize for rich experiences. And he gives a couple of

7:36 – different examples. The first one I would use is, you know, when you’re in your 20s, he was in

7:40 – his 20s, maybe 25 years old, working on Wall Street as an investment banker and he had a buddy

7:44 – that was doing the same. And his buddy just hauled off and quit, hauled off and quit, spent two

7:48 – months backpacking, staying in hostels in Europe. And the author was unbelievably shocked. Why would

7:54 – you ever do that, right? That’s absolutely insane to walk away from an unbelievable job. It’s such an

7:58 – early age that could change the fine trajectory of your financial future. So the author said, you know

8:04 – what? I’m going to make sure that I get my ducks in a row, build my life, make sure that I got a good

8:08 – financial foundation. And then I’ll go do that. Then I’ll take a couple of months and I’ll travel

8:12 – throughout Europe, etc. Fast forward 10 years. And he’s now got a wife, got kids. And while he

8:19 – does have more money in the bank account, there is literally no chance that he would ever be able to

8:25 – go spend multiple months traveling around Europe, you know, backpacking. And even if he wanted to,

8:30 – he wouldn’t be willing to stay in hostels along the way, right? He’s just a juncture of his life

8:35 – where that’s not something he’d be interested in doing. The point is that those experiences that you

8:40 – have earlier in life, you give up a little bit in terms of compound interest in terms of the

8:47 – investments that you’re making along the way. But the argument he is making is that there is also

8:53 – something to be said of the compounding effect of the memories that you have. So as you can imagine,

9:02 – every time that you have one of these beautiful experiences, like myself, my wife, or we had an

9:06 – unbelievable honeymoon, we spent two weeks traveling around the Baltic and multiple different

9:10 – countries on the cruise. It was just an amazing experience. And I still have the luxury every single

9:17 – year of spending time reflecting back with my wife of this amazing journey that we’ve had. And every

9:22 – time that we bring it up, there’s a little bit of an endorphin hit, we get to remember these

9:27 – unbelievable experiences. And there’s something to be said for that. There’s value in that. In fact,

9:32 – some people would state that those experiences are priceless. And so yes, it costs money to go

9:39 – do those things a little bit further upstream earlier in your life. But when viewed over a long

9:45 – enough horizon, not only do you get the unbelievable one-time experience, but rather you get to experience

9:51 – it over and over and over in the memories that you can revert back to in those, provide you with an

9:55 – endorphin hit, and oftentimes can be priceless along the way. Later in life, you often hear folks

10:02 – unfortunately, truly that are on their deathbed that have now come to the realization that time

10:07 – is way more important and way more valuable than money. That has always been the case. But

10:14 – when you’re much younger, you don’t realize it until much later in life. And now all of a sudden,

10:19 – you built a little bit of wealth over time. You’ve become somewhat successful in the eyes of society,

10:22 – but you realize, so what, right? The truth is, if you don’t have your health, then what is well?

10:27 – It’s completely irrelevant. It’s why too many times when people are on their deathbed,

10:31 – you never hear folks saying, I wish I would have spent a little bit more time in the office. I

10:35 – wish I would have made a little bit more money. I wish I would have had another zero on the income

10:39 – statement or another zero on the balance sheet. Rather, they always say, I wish I would have spent

10:44 – more time with family. I wish I wouldn’t have worked so hard. Those are often the regrets that

10:50 – you hear. Most people die with too much money or not enough life. Almost nobody gets that balance

10:57 – right. I think another way to try to exemplify this is from one of my favorite movies of all time,

11:02 – probably my favorite movie of all time, Goodwill Hunting, where the main character, his love interest,

11:08 – is studying at Harvard. And she happens to be in her 20s. And both of her parents unfortunately

11:14 – had passed away. And she inherited a lot of money. She inherited multiple millions of dollars.

11:19 – So when that was the case, they’re squabbling back and forth and having a little bit of an argument

11:24 – and will the main character is kind of viewing her as somewhat of a trust fund baby. And

11:30 – the love interest says something to the effect of every day I wake up. You don’t think that every

11:36 – single day when I wake up I could give all of this money back. I could give it all back. And I’d give

11:40 – it back in a second. If a man I could have one more day with my parents, but I can’t. And that’s

11:47 – my reality. And so I live with it. For those that are kind of clutching onto the purse strings and

11:52 – so excited to pass along wealth to the next generation when you’re, you know, you reach 65, 70,

11:57 – 75, 80, et cetera. And you’ve got, you’re trying to pass along that wealth. That’s beautiful.

12:01 – But I can promise you that the vast majority of the children would much, much, much, much prefer

12:08 – to take the trip with you now so that you could travel the world together, spend time together,

12:13 – have those rich experiences together, be able to reflect back on them. And they’ll remember

12:17 – those for the rest of their lives. It is far more important than passing along another $10,000,

12:22 – $20,000, $50,000 in my humble opinion. The book, Die With Zero, has really helped me reframe what

12:29 – the ultimate objective is. Of course, I want to generate cash flow and build legacy wealth in a

12:34 – tax-efficient manner, pass along a bunch of wealth to the next generation, change the family tree.

12:38 – That is all true. But I want to ensure that we’re not so stingy and stringent about our expenses

12:45 – that we’re not enjoying life along the way and having the most wonderful life that we possibly

12:51 – can. So this idea of having these unbelievable experiences that produce dividends downstream,

12:58 – right? I mentioned my honeymoon. And every single year, when we think about it, we just get these

13:03 – endorphin hits. And it’s just so beautiful to think about that experience again and you just

13:07 – benefit from the compound effect associated with going back to the well and enjoying these

13:13 – priceless memories over time. That is really the objective. It is not to die with zero,

13:17 – but it’s to optimize for lifestyle. And that’s what we’re trying to do.

13:21 – Ensure that you’re not just trying to grow for growth’s sake. You’re growing with intention,

13:27 – but ensuring that you’re soaking up every single minute, every single moment that you can with

13:33 – your family along the way because you’ll never get those moments back. And it’s applying the same

13:37 – idea in this concept of risk-adjusted returns. You only need to get rich once. And once you do that,

13:43 – you should try to focus first on protecting the downside, right? You do not need to go shoot for

13:48 – the moon anymore. The first priority should ultimately be ensuring that you never lose money. Rule

13:53 – number one, don’t lose money. Rule number two, don’t forget rule number one. Continue to follow that

13:57 – path. So I’m trying to generate the best return that I possibly can while taking the most

14:01 – diminimous amount of risk possible along the way. And so if I’m bringing that same idea in the

14:06 – concept of risk-adjusted returns to life in general, if I kept a little bit more of that principle

14:10 – along the way and didn’t spend that money, I could have maybe built a little bit more wealth.

14:13 – So what? How much more do you actually need? Money doesn’t actually buy happiness

14:17 – independence does. And then once you have independence, then you’re just trying to find the best

14:20 – most rich experiences that you can. What about the inverse? What about the risk-adjusted return

14:25 – if I spent too much money? What if I spent a little bit too much money? Then from the perspective

14:30 – of compound interest, maybe I don’t have as much principle to grow it and maybe I don’t go from

14:35 – seven figures to eight figures or maybe I don’t go from eight figures to nine figures or maybe

14:38 – I don’t go from nine figures to a billion over time, right? But at some point, there’s always

14:43 – somebody that is always a bigger fish to fry. You’re then kind of in this comparative analysis

14:50 – situation. And if you focus on that, the risk-adjusted return perspective, the risk of spending a

14:56 – little bit too much is maybe I don’t get to a billion. Okay, is that the end of the world?

15:00 – If you don’t get to nine figures or eight figures of net worth, depending upon where you’re

15:04 – at in that range, is that the end of the world when you know that you spend time with your family?

15:08 – Are you going to regret spending more time taking that extra weekend with your family along the way?

15:13 – I would post to you that the likelihood is not, right? So just trying to make sure that you keep

15:17 – that in mind as you progress. And you optimize for lifestyle experiences along the way as opposed to

15:22 – simply and surely only solely focusing on building your net worth and your income streams along the way.

15:28 – I feel like a lot of folks that are extremely competitive, you know, whether they’re investors or

15:34 – just in business in general, you can fall into a trap, right? You can fall into a trap where you’re

15:39 – always trying to build a bigger business, build a bigger net worth over time and you’re competing

15:44 – against all these other individuals. Yes, it’s important to have a really good return on investment.

15:49 – It’s obviously an important trade to have a high quality return on equity, but it is even more

15:54 – important to have the best return on life that you can along the way. What are we actually

15:58 – optimizing for? Because if you do not do that, you end up in a situation where you’re comparing

16:05 – yourself to the Joneses. If you’re always trying to keep up with the Joneses, there’s always going

16:10 – to be a bigger boat. There’s always going to be a bigger car. There’s always going to be a bigger

16:14 – spaceship. Everybody else, right? There’s always somebody out there that’s got a bigger house, a

16:17 – bigger boat, a bigger car. It’s completely irrelevant. And it ties back to this idea of the inner

16:22 – scorecard. Do you have an outer scorecard or an inner scorecard? Back to the old sage wisdom from

16:28 – Warren Buffett. Try to live your life with an inner scorecard where at the end of the day,

16:32 – when you can lay your head down at night knowing that you’ve done everything in your power to

16:36 – optimize your family’s situation and optimize your life for the betterment of your spouse,

16:42 – your kids, your grandkids and all the network immediately around you. And if you do that,

16:48 – then that’s all that really matters. If you’re trying to compare yourself to others and benchmark

16:52 – yourself to others along the way, that ends up leading to just this innate anxiety and unhappiness,

16:57 – because you will never make it. There’s always somebody out there with a bigger car or a bigger

17:02 – house, a bigger this, a bigger that is completely irrelevant. Focus on yourself, right? If you had

17:07 – the choice to either be known as the best investor in the world, but you actually had a horrific

17:10 – track record and you were the worst, would you prefer that or would you rather be recognized as the

17:15 – worst investment track record in the world? But actuality, you have the best. You should strive on a

17:19 – daily basis to have an inner scorecard and work such that you’re less focused on your reputation

17:27 – and you’re more focused on your character, because reputation is what others think you are,

17:32 – and your character is what you actually are. Focus on your character, focus on your character,

17:38 – focus on your inner scorecard, and the results ultimately take care of themselves over the long term.

17:43 – So how do you kind of implement that in a more systematic manner in your life? The best way that I’ve

17:48 – found to ultimately implement this is by leveraging a system that was shared with me by a gentleman

17:56 – named Jesse Itzler. Jesse Itzler went on to a very unique and eclectic background, multiple time

18:03 – entrepreneur, sold multiple businesses, one of which is net jets, the largest private jet

18:09 – company in the world, ultimately sold it to Warren Buffett, his wife, I believe Sarah Blakely,

18:14 – also an exceptional entrepreneur in her own right. So these individuals have done exceptionally

18:17 – well. Congratulations. And you know, now he basically goes and teaches a framework on how to live

18:24 – the most rich life possible, because it’s no longer about money. It’s about how do you get the

18:29 – best experiences in life? He’s got a very great framework that I’ve implemented in my life as well,

18:34 – and it’s basically a cheeky name, but it’s called the big ass calendar, the big ass calendar.

18:40 – Literally on my wall behind me is just that. It’s a 365 day calendar posted on one

18:47 – respective board that in a moment to notice throughout the entire course of the year, you can just

18:51 – see your entire year planned out in one fell swoop. It’s very, very helpful. And you try to plan

18:57 – all of the family’s items on that calendar in advance of any of the additional business stuff,

19:02 – because if you don’t put the family stuff at first, I can promise you that my calendar would

19:07 – be absolutely swamped with exorbitant amounts of additional responsibilities from the business

19:12 – that would overrun any of that open calendar space, right? So you have to put the family stuff

19:17 – on first, and then you build the business to serve the family. And so the idea of the principle

19:24 – is the following. The big ass calendar is the following. He’s got a couple of very simple ones

19:27 – that I follow that I think are very helpful. The first one is the idea of a Musogi of having one

19:31 – large life goal that you want to achieve over the course of the year. So that can mean anything,

19:38 – it could be, you know, running a marathon, if you’ve never done it, it could mean becoming a

19:41 – published author. It could mean some sort of large goal that’s going to take you multiple months

19:45 – to ultimately achieve over time. So have something like that so that over the course of your life,

19:50 – you’d be able to say, Hey, in 2025, I ran my first marathon. Hey, in 2020, you know, six, I ended

19:56 – up, you know, running my first triathlon or whatever the case may be, right? Then he has this other

20:01 – rule that I absolutely love. It’s called Kevin’s rule. One time he was having a conversation with a

20:05 – buddy of his, his name Kevin, obviously, that was a firefighter, just a very, you know, traditional

20:10 – blue collar role. And they went out on this fun little trip out in Washington where I believe they

20:15 – hiked up to the top of a mountain mountain, Mount Rainier, and they were up on top of this mountain

20:19 – in the middle of nowhere. Nobody around. And again, didn’t cost him any money to do this. This was

20:23 – on a random Friday night. And they were just out there hiking in the middle of nowhere,

20:27 – thoroughly enjoyed every moment of it. And he asked Kevin, how often do you do this? He said,

20:32 – great story. I got a good system for this. He said, every other week, I do something a little

20:37 – mini adventure that I would typically not do. So over the course of the entire year, I have 26

20:45 – little mini adventures that I would never be able to do over time by instituting that small little

20:52 – tweak in your life. And again, that didn’t take any, any money to go out and do a little bit of a hike

20:56 – or, you know, walk around and do something random with your family. These are little mini adventures

21:01 – outside of the day to day, outside of the norm. And if you amplify that over the course of a year,

21:06 – two years, five years, 10 years, a decade, two decades, five decades, over time, as you can imagine,

21:11 – you have, you know, let’s say you live another 50 years with the advent of beautiful medicine

21:16 – and the like, right? That would ensure that you have 50 year defining basades, year defining moments.

21:24 – And you have hundreds of these little mini adventures. And what that ensures is that you’ve one life,

21:30 – you win life, and you’ll be able to go back and refer back to those unbelievable mini adventures

21:35 – over time and get a little tiny endorphin hit every time that you do so. And the beautiful thing

21:40 – about the big ass calendar is you plot that on the calendar and you’ll have the luxury of going

21:44 – back and remembering all these things that you’ve achieved over the course of a year at a moment’s

21:48 – notice. And that’s what I’ve found to be unbelievably successful in ensuring that you build the

21:54 – business to serve the family and spend the money at the time that makes the most sense. So you’re

21:59 – getting the best return on life that you possibly can along the way. I understand that our goal

22:06 – is to generate cash flow and build legacy wealth in a tax-efficient manner. This is an investing

22:10 – show, but the entire purpose of money, it is not money for money’s sake. Money is a tool very

22:15 – much like you go to Home Depot and somebody buys a drill. Why do you buy a drill? Do you care about

22:20 – the drill? Do you put a drill on a pedestal? No, you do not care about the drill, the quarter-inch

22:24 – drill. You care about the quarter-inch hole in the wall. The money is just a tool to ultimately

22:29 – have the cash flow so that it allows you to live the life that you want with your family. And that

22:33 – is what matters most. So always making sure that you keep that top of mind. And number one on the

22:38 – priority list, when you’re building this wealth over time and allocating capital on behalf of your

22:43 – family, maybe one of the most common times that this pops up is when couples are in their peak

22:49 – earning years because often when when couples are in their peak earning years is when the children

22:56 – are in school becoming young adolescents and you’ve heard it over and over and over again, right?

23:00 – When you have young kids, you hear everybody always say it, right? Oh my gosh, enjoy the time. It

23:06 – goes so quickly. It goes so quickly. Another one of these staggering statistics is that by the time

23:13 – that your child is 18 years old, you have already spent 95% of the cumulative amount of time that

23:19 – you will ever spend with that child. You will never get that time back. And it’s oftentimes very

23:25 – difficult to make the conscious choice to not work so hard, to not go spend the extra hour

23:32 – at work and over time because you’re trying to amass the the role of dex and the bank role and the

23:37 – nest egg necessary to be able to live the life that you want with your family, but the truth is

23:41 – the family is oftentimes right under your nose the entire time. And you want to ensure that you

23:47 – spend it as wisely as you can. As the old sage always says, I wish I would have spent more time with

23:54 – my family along the way. So please just be mindful of that. Of course, especially for those that

23:59 – have the kids there or the grandkids now, try to spend as much time with them while they’re young

24:03 – as you can. Because by the time that they’re 18 years old, that statistic is shocking 95% of the time

24:10 – that you will ever spend with your children is done by the time that they leave the house when they’re

24:15 – 18 years old. So let’s go ahead and round this out. At the end of your life, you’re not going to be

24:21 – staring at your account balance. You’re going to be remembering your life, the time that you spent,

24:27 – the experiences that you had, the people that you were present for. And I think if you ask most

24:34 – people what matters most, they’re not going to say money. They’re going to say time. So maybe the

24:41 – goal isn’t to die with zero. And maybe it’s not to die with the most. Maybe it’s just to allocate

24:49 – your life in a way that you don’t look back with regret. So I’m going to leave you with this.

24:55 – Where in your life right now are you overfunding the future and underfunding the present?

25:03 – That’s just something we’re thinking about. Over the last couple of episodes, we’ve taken a more

25:07 – of a personal span a little deeper dive into personal expenditures as well as kind of how to build

25:13 – your own little individual family office and build a business intentionally. And the truth is,

25:20 – you want to build it to serve your family as we’ve been talking about the last couple episodes.

25:23 – So the only way that you can actually do that, you can actually build the life that you want and

25:29 – live the life that you want today is if you have sufficient cash flow today to choose to live

25:35 – life on your own terms. In the next episode, we’re going to talk about one of those sage investment

25:39 – principles. And that is that free cash flow tells the truth. Free cash flow tells the truth. I can’t

25:46 – wait to dig into that more with you. Until next time, you’d be great.